The many ways to women’s orgasms

Women’s orgasms are both amazingly multiple, and how-the-hell-do-you-do-it mysterious.  Make a woman orgasm and you know you’re in for a lot of fun: but how do you make a woman orgasm in the first place?

I’ll give you a clue.

Women’s orgasms aren’t just about with how big your cock is, or whether you can find the g-spot. If you want your woman to orgasm it’s time to forget all of those myths about what it takes to make a woman orgasm.

The facts are simple: every woman is different, and every woman orgasms differently.

That may be too vague for you, so let’s look at one solid fact about women’s orgasms: many women can only orgasm through clitoral stimulation.

What does this mean for you? It means the women you meet aren’t necessarily going to have earth shattering orgasms in a certain position, or orgasms just from regular sex. Women often need masturbation (or oral stimulation) of the clitoris to orgasm.

So if you want to make a woman orgasm it’s time to stop thinking about making her orgasm through penetrative sex alone: and start thinking about how you can make women orgasm through your other sexual skills.

Don’t get me wrong, orgasm through full sex is AMAZING when it happens, but women can sometimes only usually orgasm with a longer term partner, someone who knows their body, who knows how to make them orgasm.

This is because so many men, have no clue what they’re doing when the lights shut off.

When you’re in bed with a woman for the first time, if you want her to have a show stopping orgasm, and if you want to be the kind of lover that makes women orgasm every time, then you need to focus on the clitoris.

You can find out all about the clitoris here. Geography aside, stimulating the clitoris (via stroking, licking etc) can really aid a woman’s orgasm. So go down on her, take your time with foreplay: if you can make a woman orgasm, or reach the point of orgasm, before full sex, then she’s way more likely to orgasm again and again.

You can also try to use more ‘woman on top’ sexual positions that favour her orgasm by letting her grind her clitoris into your pubic bone. Sometimes the route to making a woman orgasm isn’t hard work for you: it’s about letting the woman take the initiative.

Trust me, she a woman is on top of you and her places her hands on your chest, it’s NOT to feel your cheat… It’s because she wants to make sure you don’t move while she’s getting herself off.

Women know how to make themselves orgasm. So let her show you how she can reach the point of orgasm: be ok to her the woman take the lead. Watch her make herself orgasm, let your woman show you what makes her come.

Some women will want you to thrust deeply to hit their g-spot and make them orgasm.

Other women will want you to massage their clitoris to make them orgasm.

Heck, some women will want you to do both to make them orgasm.

Whatever the woman wants, listen: she knows her body best.

Remember make your woman have that mysterious orgasm once and she’s not only likely to orgasm again, and again, but she’ll find it easier to orgasm, and more pleasurable, each time. The result? You’re one very happy man.

Until next time – To your sexual future,

Isabella Stone

Leave A Reply (4 comments so far)


  1. marcus

    Thank you very much for the wonderful jobs you are doing by bringing happiness to thousands if not million marriages and relationships, may God bless you for your good works.


  2. David Dugo

    Please could you brief me on what significant role penise size play for female orgasm?Thanx.


  3. Paul

    Women are not going to climax until they are first fully relaxed. We can relax several ways:

    1. Yawning and stretching- which causes us to tense up all our muscles, hold them, and then let them relax;
    2. Laughing. Laughing is the nicest way we relax because its truly enjoyable. Laughter is created by teasing, flirting, tickling- especially those Ezones. Even how you take your clothes off, or hers, can be the beginning of losts of laughter;
    3. Having orgasms.

    The next step is deep breathing. Some women simply can’t relax in any of the above ways, and that is where asking a woman to concentrate on breathing in slowly, and exhaling slowly works. It occupies their conscious mind with something that is usually an Autonomous Nervous system activity. LOng deep breaths, followed by long slow exhales, with a 5 second STOP when she exhales fully, ( Have her count, and count with her the first few times) will set the slow cadence( rhythm) needed to keep her focused on this breathing activity, while you stimulate other parts of her body, to get her excited, and on the verge of her orgasm.

    If a woman ( New lover) is already competent at taking herself to orgasms through masturbation, by all means, ask her to take your hands and fingers and show you what touch, and rhythms she likes and when she likes to change the rhythm. Once she knows that you “care enough to give her the very best”, she can relax and enjoy.

    Most writers, and counselors for get, or simply don’t know the value of continuing with sex play after she has her first orgasm. She is relaxed, but her entire nervous system is now fully awake, and all tuned into her sex organs. This is the opportunity for women to learn how they can have more orgasms-shock!— and have them with less direct stimulation of the clitoris and G-spot. SHE IS TURNED ON . Its a mistake not take advantage of the situation and give her that next orgasm or 10! She will train her brain( the real sex organ, or course) to respond to all kinds of different touches, and strokes to different parts of her body, if you simply begin exploring those other areas with her while she is rising to those next orgasm.

    For instance, with one lover, she was in the throes of an orgasm or 10 on her back, with her legs up on my shoulders when her feet began To waive back and forth in front of my face, as I was sitting back on my legs, while still fully mounted in her pussy. To keep from losing an eye, I grabbed her foot, and stuck her Big Toe in my mouth, and sucked on it to hold it there. She had an instant Huge Orgasm, that cause her to rise up off the mattress, her eyes roll in the back of her orbits, her holding her breath for more than 10 long seconds before she relaxed and fell back on the mattress. I waited for her to open her eyes, and catch her breath. When she did, she told me she had NO feeling of her legs from her ankle to her crotch. She was exhausted, so I let her nap for 15 minutes. When I woke her her sense of touch had been restored. She told me that was the biggest orgasm she had ever experienced to date, and wanted to know if we could do that again! ( of course we could- and later did. ) She learned to have little orgasms from me rubbing the palms of her hands walking down the street or holding her hand in a movie theater. She could instantly excited by me just rubbing her mastoid gland behind her ear. She told me she could climax just hearing my voice on the phone. She was the one who asked me What I Had done to make it so easy for her to have orgasms.

    Paul


  4. Elizabeth

    Your so right Isabelle
    That “the clit” is the point of all pleasure.